What to Know Before You Update

“You Have a New Update Available for Your Phone”

Uggh. Have you ever installed an update only to discover new problems you now have to live with until the next update? Would waiting a few days have saved you time in the long run?

Rumor has it that a new update is coming for iPhone users, and those of us who have the iPhone 6, SE, or iPad mini may not be very happy about it. You can read more about it at MacWorld or by clicking here.

Here’s what used to happen in my home: 

My husband would update his phone as soon as it became available because he didn’t like those “update” messages popping up every day. Then he’d get frustrated because changes were made to his phone. So I’d go into his phone’s settings to try to solve the problem but sometimes I’d just have to admit, “Sorry, but you’re going to have to live with it for a while.”

On the other hand, my phone’s memory was usually so full that no update could be installed until I either removed a large app like Facebook or deleted some music. So while I was waiting to clear up some memory, my husband and many others had moved on to dealing with the problems caused by their recent updates. 

Should we wait to install an update? Here’s my two cents…

It depends on the reason for the update.

If you hear that there is a major security breach and updating will keep you safer, update immediately. No question. Many updates help our phones stay safe from the latest hacks. In fact, the Federal Communications Commission has a page that tells how important it is to keep your phone’s operating system up to date.

Any other time, though, I’ll usually wait 5-10 days. This gives others a chance to install the update, find the bugs, and report them. The company then repairs the bugs and sends out a “fix” in a new update. Apple is pretty good about having the fix available within two weeks.

How do you know when the fixed update is available? Look for the update number with an extension. So update 12.2 becomes 12.2.1.

Another way to make sure you are updating the fixed version is to look at the date and description. It’ll usually say something like “This update fixes problems with a recent update.”

What to do in the meantime about those pesky pop-up reminders? 

I just click on “Remind me later” and figure the seconds it takes to touch my screen beats the constant frustration of having my phone bugged with problems for the next two weeks. If you don’t want your phone to automatically update at night, but you accidentally clicked on “update later,” you can just shut your phone off or put it in airplane mode each night until you are ready to install.

And if you are one of the lucky owners of an iPhone 6, SE or iPad mini? You can skip the updates from here on, but you may be putting your security at risk. Instead, I’d say wait at least two or three weeks and let the dust settle before you dive in to the update. By then you will at least know what problems to expect. Maybe they won’t even affect your own phone habits as much as the critics are predicting.

What if you have a phone other than an iPhone?

     To see if your Samsung Galaxy phone needs updating click here.

     For Google Pixel phone updates, click here

For other types, refer to the website of your brand of phone.

Let me know if you’ve got any questions or comments about updating.

This article was written for our Facebook group that shares easy tech tips and ideas. We believe technology can help the ordinary person in extraordinary ways without having to be a techno-whiz. Until I can find a permanent name, I’m calling the group Helping Our Seniors Enrich Their Lives with Technology. I hope you’ll join us!

Three Myths of Meditation

Today in episode 9 we’ll bust the three myths of meditation and I’ll share my three favorite types. I also reveal what kind of meditation is the very best for your health. Plus, stick around because there is a bonus for you at the end!

00:01:10 Can you think of one person that has such a deep peace in their spirit that you feel calmer just by being around them? Finding that level of peace is something I’ve been working on lately. I’ve always thought one of the best things we can do for our friends and family during a time of stress is to have our own reservoir of inner calm, ready to share with others. If you’ve been interested in meditation but you have some questions, then its time to find out what’s keeping you from having this peace in your life. 

00:02:35 Myth #1 It’s not going to work for me. There are many types of meditation out there; it’s important to find one that syncs with you and your background. The best meditation is the one that you want to come back to, day after day. Just remember: Don’t Give Up. Everyone’s mind wanders during meditation, but if you bring your focus back to your breathing and keep moving on, you’ll see the results over time. 

00:03:53 Myth #2 There’s no time; there’s no place. Meditation isn’t defined by a place, a pose or a practice. It can be as simple as just focusing on having a steady, slow breath for a few moments in the middle of a hectic day. There are many ways to gain this peace and calmness in your life, but my favorites have always been these three: walking meditation, controlled breathing and scripture meditation. If you would be interested in finding out more about my podcast on scripture meditation, you can go to restingintheword.org.

00:08:17 My other podcast is a guided scripture meditation to aid in sleep. You can find it at restingintheword.org

00:08:43 Myth #3 You can’t prove it works. Yes, scientific studies have proven that meditation does work to reduce anxiety and depression, heart disease, diabetes, improve sleep and your immune system. Want the facts? Here’s the scientific research you need!


Tiny Victories Keep the Dream Alive

Positively Life After Fifty had a tiny victory today and I just had to write about it to celebrate! This is the site I built in the summer of 2013 when I began a podcast with the same name. I thought it would be easy; buy the website name, build the site, and get started podcasting. Boom. Done.

(Pssst…scroll down to jump ahead to the tiny victory.)

But then life hit. Boom. Hard. I went back to work teaching…a very stressful year.
Then I got sick, couldn’t sleep, couldn’t eat, really stressed. Yet my students all needed my help, as did my own family. Not many victories, but hugs from the kids sure helped.  

My job took a turn again for the worse. I loved the kids, but the pressure, along with the insomnia, was crushing my spirit. I began to rethink what was most important in life, and put in for early retirement.

Acknowledge all of your small victories. They will eventually add up to something great. 

Kara Goucher

Meanwhile my podcast equipment was STILL gathering dust in the corner of the living room, and my website was in a sad state of atrophy. 2013 turned into ’14, ’15 and even ’16. I began to think my dream was going to sadly fade away like Christmas poinsettias in January.

Maybe when I retire, I thought, I can revive this dream of having a thriving website and podcast. Or… maybe I should just let it go. I seriously thought about giving up, I didn’t think it mattered to anyone. But I couldn’t.

Have you ever had a hard time letting go of your dreams? That’s surely normal. After all, we’ve nurtured some dreams for a lifetime and invested in them with our hopes and plans. They’re like our children. No? Okay, well, at least they’re like our favorite pets. We don’t want to give up, but life happens and before you know it:  Boom. Done. No more dream. I was close to giving up. After retirement, I was too busy to focus on the website, write or produce a podcast. But I now realize that just as many tiny victories adds up to something great, so can many small coincidences lead us back to the path to those lost dreams. Small coincidences like a comment a friend made, that got you believing in yourself again. Or finally reading that book you’ve been putting off for so long, (for me it was FINISH by Jon Acuff. Wow!) Or even getting enough sleep, so you have a brain that actually works again. Small, unrelated coincidences have a way of helping us get back on the right path, the path that leads to revived dreams.

 Small, unrelated coincidences have a way of helping us get back on the right path, the path that leads to revived dreams.

Positively Life After Fifty

So what’s my tiny victory today? It’s that little lock in the browser bar at the top of your screen. Seems like a small victory, but not for me.

You see, as I’m rebuilding this old website, one problem has eluded me. Security. No more! TODAY, with the help of an online tech guy who replaced some missing code, I FINALLY got my “lock” along with the “s” in the “https://” in my web address! You can now visit my site without getting that scary message, “This website is not secure!”

And best of all? YOU are now safe to sign up for my newsletter and get updates and all the great freebies that I will be making in the future. (Your name and email address will be safe, never shared.) You can sign up right now, on this page. I look forward to hearing from you!

Here’s hoping you can celebrate a tiny victory, or two, of your own this week and move one step closer to your dreams!

Give Yourself the Gift of a Finished Goal

“If a goal is worth having, it’s worth blocking out time in your day-to-day life necessary to achieve it.” Jill Koenig, Top Goals Coach

I love setting goals, and starting goals, but lately when it comes to finishing a goal, I’m a wimp. For example, I can’t even finish one book. Not one! Blame weak eyes or my weird, sneezy reaction to a book’s pages; reading a book is no longer enjoyable. So for me, finishing one is out of the question.

But I can listen. Thanks, Audible.

This week on my walks I’m listening to one of my newest, favorite books; FINISH, Give Yourself the Gift of Done, by Jon Acuff.

I’m walking along, so engrossed in his stories, I’m not even noticing that the weather’s changed and I’ve got a snowy sleet-stuff hitting me in the face. Why? I’m suddenly overwhelmed by the feeling that Acuff was talking directly to me. (As if I’m the only one in the world with the problem of finishing goals, right?)

But Acuff is using words and emotions I’m very familiar with, like perfectionism, failure, and self-sabotage.  And I’m realizing how much time I’m wasting on things that look like they are related to my goals, but are in fact steering me away from the real focus of my goals. I’m not taking bad things; I’m talking things that can wait or even be eliminated from my life until a goal is met. For example, most email can wait, as well as the latest news stories or social media. And I know I’m not the only one who uses household chores as an excuse to avoid working on a goal. I also know some things can’t wait — like one’s own health, children, or job responsibilities. Those things demand our immediate attention, and rightly so.

But across the history of civilization, its our goals that move us forward.

Or backward.

Like potato chips.

Have you ever tried to use a little reward to help you meet your goals? Have they ever backfired? I have. Take health, for example.

Just recently it’s become apparent that I need to eliminate high sodium foods from my diet. So what’s the first thing I crave? That opened bag of potato chips my husband left in the pantry. It seems like just thinking about depriving myself of salt has triggered some weird switch in my head that says I must have those salty chips. So when it comes to food, I may need a different kind of reward.

Goal rewards are based on fun or fear.

A reward based on fear is like this: I don’t want to get heart disease (a fear), so I will get 30 minutes of exercise five times a week (a goal). Rewards based on fear do work.

I cut gluten out of my diet because of fear. I feared I would continue to live miserably with hives, welts, and painful inflammation. You can read about it in the link below.

But a much more enjoyable reward is one based on fun. Fun can mean different things to different people. To me, fun means something that brings joy, and since I’m writing this in December, the one thing that brings me joy are the festive holiday lights.

So on this dark, gloomy winter day, my goal is to write 500 words before I can turn on three sets of Christmas lights in my home. But instantly, I’m defeated. Five hundred words?

Suddenly, that sounds like a LOT of words to write. I’m reminded of how often I’ve failed before—like with the potato chips.

It’s called self-sabotaging, and I do it so much I fail to even recognize it. But that’s just another way we keep ourselves from finishing goals. Like instantly thinking your goal isn’t attainable.

So…CHANGE IT, change the goal. Cut it in half, or more if you need to, make it attainable! For me, that means I’ll chop my goal down to 50 words, then light up one set of lights…write 50 more, turn on more lights, etc.

Sounds trivial? Hear me out.

I’ve now typed over way my goal of 50 words

What’s that you say? It’s not anything special, just another blog post? Now you’re getting personal. Not for me, but for you. Because when you set your own goals and rewards, they don’t have to be earth-shattering or life-changing.

They’re YOUR goals: YOU make the rules.

So what’s your goal and reward for today? You choose.

Then cut it in half.

NOW you’re ready to go for it!

And to prove it’s possible, here are my 500 800 words!

Excuse me while I go enjoy my pretty lights…